We have covered enough material from the Word of God to recognize that:
God intended for men and women to marry; in fact, most of us would find it very difficult to live a life (morally, that is) outside of marriage. “If they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn” (1 Cor. 7:9). Marriage is therefore, not just for happiness, but for our holiness and for the glory of God.
For most of us, we get to make one choice as to our spouse. We have, therefore, just one opportunity to build a relationship that is healthy and productive for the Lord.
Clearly, the decision we make as to our lifetime companion and spouse is a most serious one. It is not something that should be acted upon hastily. On the other hand, it is also a decision that we probably cannot avoid. No one is suggesting that this must be painful or difficult. It should be a happy and joyful time in our lives. Much, however, will depend upon how we go about that quest.