A young man who continually pushes his girlfriend towards a physical familiarity with which she is not comfortable is destroying the very first thing that ought to be found on the dry ground of a Christian courtship-grass. Such conduct on the part of the young man, shows a lack of respect for a sister in Christ as a weaker vessel (1 Peter 3:77Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. (1 Peter 3:7)), and a lack of purity (see 1 John 3:33And every man that hath this hope in him purifieth himself, even as he is pure. (1 John 3:3)). No romance can be peaceful and restful if the girl has to be constantly on guard against the physical advances of her boyfriend. Apply this truth—"Let the peace of God rule"—in all your dating activities.
What fun is there for your girlfriend, if, as she gets ready for a Friday night date with you, her heart is filled with worry about how far you might try to physically push her this time? How do you expect her to confidently entrust herself for life to you as your wife if she can't even trust herself in your company for a few hours on a date?
Brothers, learn to be men—real men of God! Develop a care, a thoughtfulness and a concern for the feelings of the sister you are dating. Even more—be concerned about what the Lord Jesus thinks of your actions toward your girl friend. When you begin to date a young sister, you begin to handle one of the most fragile and delicate things found in all creation-a human heart. Do not trifle with the heart and the affections of a child of God!