“Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other.” 1 Corinthians 7:3-5
‘‘My beloved put in his hand by the hole of the door, and my bowels were moved for him. I rose up to open to my beloved ... I am my beloved’s, and his desire is toward me. Come, my beloved, ... Let us get up early to the vineyards; ... there will I give thee my loves.” Song of Solomon 5:4-5; 7:10-124My beloved put in his hand by the hole of the door, and my bowels were moved for him. 5I rose up to open to my beloved; and my hands dropped with myrrh, and my fingers with sweet smelling myrrh, upon the handles of the lock. (Song of Solomon 5:4‑5)
10I am my beloved's, and his desire is toward me. 11Come, my beloved, let us go forth into the field; let us lodge in the villages. 12Let us get up early to the vineyards; let us see if the vine flourish, whether the tender grape appear, and the pomegranates bud forth: there will I give thee my loves. (Song of Solomon 7:10‑12)
In communicating love we need to remember the importance of loving our husbands physically. God says the wife does not have the power of her own body, but the husband. God designed the physical union as an elegantly simple plan for pleasure, and specifically forbids a husband and wife from tampering with that plan. God wants us to ravish our husbands. Have you read the Song of Solomon carefully? In amazing detail, the husband and wife describe how they visually and tactilely enjoy each other from head to toe. The wife is both a willing responder and a passionate initiator. The bed is undefiled and is the God-given place for a man and wife to delight in their love. A man not only has a physical and hormonal need for his wife, but also a deep emotional need to excite and thrill her. That means she needs to show him her passion and desire with her actions and her words. If she doesn’t have the emotions, she can thrill him anyway, and pray her own hormones will kick in to help out. They usually do. Our God created this expression of love!